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From the beginning, since I've really only hinted at all this so far...
So after the whole Sam thing went down, I was whining to Kristy about how I really liked the idea of online dating, since you could kind of weed out if you had anything in common and if you were looking for the same thing before you even talked to people, much less before things carried on too far, but it also kind of sucked because they're all pay-to-contact. (I was on Yahoo! Personals for a while there. It got annoying.)
Well that set her mind to churning, and she came back a day or two later and directed me to Plenty Of Fish, which is 100% free. So I signed up, and bearing in mind something Brandon had said to me back when he dumped me, I messaged any guy who met all my major criteria.
I didn't really have a lot of luck--I didn't hear back from like 95% of the guys I messaged, lol, and the ones that messaged me were mostly--GAH. I don't get how I can put "if your profile is riddled with typos, don't bother" and "no, I don't want kids, and that's an absolute must" into my profile and still have guys with horrible spelling and grammar, or who had/wanted kids, message me.
Well, there was one guy that I looked over, and was sooooo close, but because of something he'd ticked in one of the checkboxes, I didn't message him. I thought about it--kept going back to the profile and reading it over again, actually--but ended up not doing it.
Then there was the whole Katchan-is-setting-me-up-with-a-guy-in-Canada thing, and that went over like a lead balloon. While I was dealing with harsh, derisive emails from him (the nicest of the things he said being that I was nothing at all like what he'd been expecting--um...sorry?), said "so-close" guy messaged me. He included his MSN address and stuff, so a day or three after I received it, in a violent swing of "Ah, what the hell? Certainly can't go any worse than the last one!" I added him on MSN. He was online when I did so and we started chatting.
His name is Cody. We completely clicked, and there's barely been a day since when we haven't chatted in some form--I ended up giving him my phone number about two weeks into it. This all started happening in mid-May, end of May, somewhere in there. When Mom spent that week in the hospital in early July, he called me the night she was admitted and I left Mom's room and told him I wasn't sure I'd be able to talk to him while she was there, since I knew I was going to spend all my free time there with her. By the end of that week, I missed him.
Early on (like probably the third time we chatted), Cody admitted to me that he wasn't quite eighteen yet (had about six weeks to go), and I told him then and there that I wouldn't even consider meeting him in person until after his birthday, which came and went while Mom was in the hospital. He still lives at home, actually, but he graduated early and just started his second year of college yesterday. After his birthday, it was a matter of money--I still have no job (though I went on a good interview today!), and while he does work on campus, in the computer lab, his parents have a fair measure of control over his money.And by fair measure I mean total.
But what brings this all up is that he called me last night with good news--he talked to his mom, and she is (surprisingly!) completely and totally cool with him finally driving up here to see me. =D So he should be coming up for a Sunday afternoon (his only free day, between school and work) sometime in the very near future. He just started school, like I said, so it'll be a couple of weeks yet, but very, very soon. I've been on cloud nine since he told me. ^_^
And please, DO NOT comment and tell me about all the safety rules for when you meet someone from the Internet IRL. I have heard them all already, and will be following them. (Meet somewhere public, keep your phone on you, make sure someone knows where you are, etc.)
Soo...pertinent details about Cody himself? Yeah, there's quite an age difference, but if I'm not thinking about it, I forget it's there. =) His dream is to own a computer store/repair shop. He's incredibly polite, and sweet to me. He's completely geeky--he can talk circles around me when it comes to computers--and is a Mac man to boot. Not so much a reader (at least not a book reader), but when he does read it's good stuff. I just read The Picture of Dorian Gray on his recommendation. Anyone who likes Oscar Wilde obviously has impeccable taste. He's creative, has a DeviantArt and makes electronic music and YouTube videos. (Yes, he's in my friends on DA and YouTube, as well as MySpace and Facebook.) Lol, I dunno...he's just...he makes me happy inside.
I've been talking with Nico and Kristy about him, and they both assure me that from what I tell them that I'm not going off the deep end. Nico's exact words on the matter were "If you haven't fucked it up after three months, it's infallible. Go for it." -_-* Lol. (This would probably be funnier if it wasn't true.)
In other news, I got my left-ear cartilage pierced last Friday night. Long story, which I may post later, when I feel like typing another massive missive. Honestly, it was exciting at the time, but it feels like small news compared to what I just wrote. ^_^
So after the whole Sam thing went down, I was whining to Kristy about how I really liked the idea of online dating, since you could kind of weed out if you had anything in common and if you were looking for the same thing before you even talked to people, much less before things carried on too far, but it also kind of sucked because they're all pay-to-contact. (I was on Yahoo! Personals for a while there. It got annoying.)
Well that set her mind to churning, and she came back a day or two later and directed me to Plenty Of Fish, which is 100% free. So I signed up, and bearing in mind something Brandon had said to me back when he dumped me, I messaged any guy who met all my major criteria.
I didn't really have a lot of luck--I didn't hear back from like 95% of the guys I messaged, lol, and the ones that messaged me were mostly--GAH. I don't get how I can put "if your profile is riddled with typos, don't bother" and "no, I don't want kids, and that's an absolute must" into my profile and still have guys with horrible spelling and grammar, or who had/wanted kids, message me.
Well, there was one guy that I looked over, and was sooooo close, but because of something he'd ticked in one of the checkboxes, I didn't message him. I thought about it--kept going back to the profile and reading it over again, actually--but ended up not doing it.
Then there was the whole Katchan-is-setting-me-up-with-a-guy-in-Canada thing, and that went over like a lead balloon. While I was dealing with harsh, derisive emails from him (the nicest of the things he said being that I was nothing at all like what he'd been expecting--um...sorry?), said "so-close" guy messaged me. He included his MSN address and stuff, so a day or three after I received it, in a violent swing of "Ah, what the hell? Certainly can't go any worse than the last one!" I added him on MSN. He was online when I did so and we started chatting.
His name is Cody. We completely clicked, and there's barely been a day since when we haven't chatted in some form--I ended up giving him my phone number about two weeks into it. This all started happening in mid-May, end of May, somewhere in there. When Mom spent that week in the hospital in early July, he called me the night she was admitted and I left Mom's room and told him I wasn't sure I'd be able to talk to him while she was there, since I knew I was going to spend all my free time there with her. By the end of that week, I missed him.
Early on (like probably the third time we chatted), Cody admitted to me that he wasn't quite eighteen yet (had about six weeks to go), and I told him then and there that I wouldn't even consider meeting him in person until after his birthday, which came and went while Mom was in the hospital. He still lives at home, actually, but he graduated early and just started his second year of college yesterday. After his birthday, it was a matter of money--I still have no job (though I went on a good interview today!), and while he does work on campus, in the computer lab, his parents have a fair measure of control over his money.
But what brings this all up is that he called me last night with good news--he talked to his mom, and she is (surprisingly!) completely and totally cool with him finally driving up here to see me. =D So he should be coming up for a Sunday afternoon (his only free day, between school and work) sometime in the very near future. He just started school, like I said, so it'll be a couple of weeks yet, but very, very soon. I've been on cloud nine since he told me. ^_^
And please, DO NOT comment and tell me about all the safety rules for when you meet someone from the Internet IRL. I have heard them all already, and will be following them. (Meet somewhere public, keep your phone on you, make sure someone knows where you are, etc.)
Soo...pertinent details about Cody himself? Yeah, there's quite an age difference, but if I'm not thinking about it, I forget it's there. =) His dream is to own a computer store/repair shop. He's incredibly polite, and sweet to me. He's completely geeky--he can talk circles around me when it comes to computers--and is a Mac man to boot. Not so much a reader (at least not a book reader), but when he does read it's good stuff. I just read The Picture of Dorian Gray on his recommendation. Anyone who likes Oscar Wilde obviously has impeccable taste. He's creative, has a DeviantArt and makes electronic music and YouTube videos. (Yes, he's in my friends on DA and YouTube, as well as MySpace and Facebook.) Lol, I dunno...he's just...he makes me happy inside.
I've been talking with Nico and Kristy about him, and they both assure me that from what I tell them that I'm not going off the deep end. Nico's exact words on the matter were "If you haven't fucked it up after three months, it's infallible. Go for it." -_-* Lol. (This would probably be funnier if it wasn't true.)
In other news, I got my left-ear cartilage pierced last Friday night. Long story, which I may post later, when I feel like typing another massive missive. Honestly, it was exciting at the time, but it feels like small news compared to what I just wrote. ^_^
